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What We Kept to Ourselves by Nancy Jooyoun Kim

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What We Kept to Ourselves

by Nancy Jooyoun Kim

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Follow one Korean-American family moving between ‘70s and ‘90s LA as they grapple with the meaning of home and dreams.

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    400+ pages

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    Family drama

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    Nonlinear timeline

  • Illustrated icon, Immigration

    Immigration

Synopsis

1999: The Kim family is struggling to move on after their mother, Sunny, vanished a year ago. Sixty-one-year-old John Kim feels more isolated from his grown children, Anastasia and Ronald, than ever before. But one evening, their fragile lives are further upended when John finds the body of a stranger in the backyard, carrying a letter to Sunny, leaving the family with more questions than ever about the stranger’s history and possible connections to their mother.

1977: Sunny is pregnant and has just moved to Los Angeles from Korea with her aloof and often-absent husband. America is not turning out the way she had dreamed it to be, and the loneliness and isolation are broken only by a fateful encounter at a bus stop. The unexpected connection spans the decades and echoes into the family’s lives in the present as they uncover devastating secrets that put not only everything they thought they knew about their mother but their very lives at risk.

Both a riveting page-turner and moving family story, What We Kept to Ourselves masterfully explores the consequences of secrets between parents and children, hus­bands and wives. It is the story of one unforgettable family’s search for home when all seems lost, and a powerful meditation on identity, migration, and what it means to dream in America.

Why I love it

“What was love but a ripeness of unexpected feeling, a rush to dedicate oneself, to kneel at the altar of another’s well-being without losing, but in the process, gaining another self?”

How well do we really know the people we’re closest to? This question is deeply explored in Nancy Jooyoun Kim’s What We Kept to Ourselves, a novel that reads as a gripping mystery enfolded within a family drama.

Here, we meet Sunny and John, an isolated Korean-American couple whose marriage has worn thin in the struggles of immigration and parenthood. When Sunny disappears one winter day, leaving behind her teenaged children, Ronald and Ana, John must grapple with his wife’s betrayal, along with his own culpability in their family’s dissolution.

A year after the disappearance, John stumbles upon a dead, unhoused man in the family’s yard bearing a letter with Sunny’s name on it. This discovery prompts a winding search through time, laced with treachery and moments of unexpected tenderness. As the secrets unfurl, we learn about Sunny’s inner life, teeming with rich ambitions beneath her exterior as a housewife and a mother. We begin to piece together a story that spans continents, unexpectedly stitching together two families longing for connection.

What We Kept to Ourselves is an abiding testament to the power of human empathy, even within hurdles of language, age, and race. It’s a story I won’t forget any time soon.

400+ pages
The Courting of Bristol Keats
Pictures of You
Intermezzo
The Dagger and the Flame
The Wild Huntress
The Pairing
The Wives
A Short Walk Through a Wide World
Just for the Summer
The Familiar
The Book of Doors
The Fox Wife
The Women
The Disappearance of Astrid Bricard
Family Family
Ruthless Vows
Gwen & Art Are Not in Love
The Future
What the River Knows
What We Kept to Ourselves
The Fragile Threads of Power
The River We Remember
Shark Heart
Ink Blood Sister Scribe
Warrior Girl Unearthed
The True Love Experiment
Did You Hear About Kitty Karr?
Yours Truly
The Adventures of Amina al-Sirafi
Hell Bent
A Wilderness of Stars
A Fire Endless
Babel
Before I Let Go
Bloodmarked
Foul Lady Fortune
As Long as the Lemon Trees Grow
The Attic Child
The It Girl
The Change
Part of Your World
Kaikeyi
The Cartographers
Peach Blossom Spring
A River Enchanted
The Postmistress of Paris
The Book of Magic
Apples Never Fall
The Night She Disappeared
Damnation Spring
Sisters in Arms
One Last Stop
Firekeeper's Daughter
The Four Winds
Black Buck
The City We Became
Legendborn
Pretty Little Wife
The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue
Magic Lessons
Star Daughter
The Unraveling of Cassidy Holmes
Notes on a Silencing
A Good Marriage
The Library of Legends
The Sound of Stars
Yes No Maybe So
Anna K
American Dirt
Not So Pure and Simple
Dangerous Alliance
The Glittering Hour
Red, White & Royal Blue
When the Stars Lead to You
The Great Pretender
Ninth House
Imaginary Friend
The Goldfinch
Permanent Record
The Chestnut Man
This Time Will Be Different
The Rest of the Story
Storm and Fury
Free Food for Millionaires
The Golden Hour
A Nearly Normal Family
Summer of '69
Ask Again, Yes
All the Light We Cannot See
With the Fire on High
We Hunt the Flame
Wicked Saints
Sky Without Stars
Beyond the Point
Opposite of Always
Enchantée
The Gilded Wolves
Kingdom of Copper
On the Come Up
Unsheltered
Nine Perfect Strangers
The Mermaid and Mrs. Hancock
The Oracle Year
Circe
The Astonishing Color of After
The Philosopher's Flight
The Great Alone
The Woman in the Window
Pachinko
The Nightingale
400+ pages
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The Courting of Bristol Keats
Pictures of You
Intermezzo
The Dagger and the Flame
The Wild Huntress
The Pairing
The Wives
A Short Walk Through a Wide World
Just for the Summer
The Familiar
The Book of Doors
The Fox Wife
The Women
The Disappearance of Astrid Bricard
Family Family
Ruthless Vows
Gwen & Art Are Not in Love
The Future
What the River Knows
What We Kept to Ourselves
The Fragile Threads of Power
The River We Remember
Shark Heart
Ink Blood Sister Scribe
Warrior Girl Unearthed
The True Love Experiment
Did You Hear About Kitty Karr?
Yours Truly
The Adventures of Amina al-Sirafi
Hell Bent
A Wilderness of Stars
A Fire Endless
Babel
Before I Let Go
Bloodmarked
Foul Lady Fortune
As Long as the Lemon Trees Grow
The Attic Child
The It Girl
The Change
Part of Your World
Kaikeyi
The Cartographers
Peach Blossom Spring
A River Enchanted
The Postmistress of Paris
The Book of Magic
Apples Never Fall
The Night She Disappeared
Damnation Spring
Sisters in Arms
One Last Stop
Firekeeper's Daughter
The Four Winds
Black Buck
The City We Became
Legendborn
Pretty Little Wife
The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue
Magic Lessons
Star Daughter
The Unraveling of Cassidy Holmes
Notes on a Silencing
A Good Marriage
The Library of Legends
The Sound of Stars
Yes No Maybe So
Anna K
American Dirt
Not So Pure and Simple
Dangerous Alliance
The Glittering Hour
Red, White & Royal Blue
When the Stars Lead to You
The Great Pretender
Ninth House
Imaginary Friend
The Goldfinch
Permanent Record
The Chestnut Man
This Time Will Be Different
The Rest of the Story
Storm and Fury
Free Food for Millionaires
The Golden Hour
A Nearly Normal Family
Summer of '69
Ask Again, Yes
All the Light We Cannot See
With the Fire on High
We Hunt the Flame
Wicked Saints
Sky Without Stars
Beyond the Point
Opposite of Always
Enchantée
The Gilded Wolves
Kingdom of Copper
On the Come Up
Unsheltered
Nine Perfect Strangers
The Mermaid and Mrs. Hancock
The Oracle Year
Circe
The Astonishing Color of After
The Philosopher's Flight
The Great Alone
The Woman in the Window
Pachinko
The Nightingale